i decided to end this crazy friendship with this gurl i use to go to school with. number one, she thinks everything i said is offesive, i can't talk to her, nor i can't be myself infront of her. that's crazy and i deserve better then that. i don't know what her damage is but i think she finally got sick of me and decided to act crazy. but im ending it today!
I would say dont , perhaps let her knows she acting in a way you find offensive, and maby contact her less. Lifes too short for quarrals, as in if something happend to her tommorow you'll regret it for the rest of your life, way i see it you need a break from it - then again just my take, hope all goes good
I've been through the same stuff with a real crazy chick. She was always blaming me for all sorts of stuff while most of the time basically she created all of the mess herself. Every time I was fed up with it, but did give it a go after a cooling down period. A cooling down period SHE always needed, which made the whole thing even more weird and frustrating to me. She also attracted my friendship and pushed it away again all the time. One day we were close, the next day she'd wish me dead. And I always felt guilty because at the start she was able to make me believe it was all my doing. A friend of hers then told me she had mental issues like ADHD and a disorder that takes chemicals inside her brain out of balance, it makes her snap and act weird. Ever since that day I knew she probably couldn't help it when she was acting weird, and when she got meds for her brain issues I could actually tell the difference. But recently problems started again. She accused me of being a liar, she accused Jody of being non-existent, she again pushed me away because it all is my fault again, tried to make me feel guilty and on top of that blocks me on AIM, swears to not talk to me again but still harasses me on Yahoo by sending buzzers and what not. She also claims I broke things for her and her boyfriend, while basically they were already having problems when we had this recent fall-out. So, basically it's the same thing all over again. And I'm just fed up with it. So, I've decided to let her go. I care about her, I really do, but at a certain point you've reached the limit of what you can take. And whatever you try then, it's just not worth it anymore because every time stuff like this happens it damages all the people involved more and more. It will turn to the point of hating each other, and that's never good. You also just numb the feelings you have for such people, upto the point they just don't mean anything to you anymore.
My point with this, you can keep trying but sometimes it's not meant to be. You can be full of good intentions and try to understand why people behave in a certain way, but when it comes down to it - they are the ones who should work on things as well and at least behave like an adult and talk about stuff. I for one won't do this anymore, because I've been through that stage so many times with this girl it's just annoying. I always tried to talk about stuff, I always tried to understand her, and at times it was great but in the end all she gave me was stress. It got even worse when I noticed she did things on purpose, just for the fun of it or to get attention. It shows right now, why else does she keep buzzing me on Yahoo?
Not saying you're facing the same thing Bessie, but I understand your motivation. At times you just notice you're wasting effort and time and you have to think about yourself. I think you're maybe trying to do the right thing for people and sometimes it turns itself against you. People even abuse your kindness maybe. Don't let them do that to you, and don't lower yourself to just be liked by people or keep their friendship. Do what you feel is right, because after spending years on this chick I'm gonna do the same thing.
for one, i just don't like the fact that she puts words in my mouth. words i never said in my life. i been through this cycle and..to be honest...im done..im done with the stress and the fighting. it's pretty clear we don't get along so why hold on to something that is not meant to be. it comes to a point in your life that you need to let go and that's what i want. to let go
Well, if that is what you feel is right for you you should do it. You may have a difficult time with it at first but in the end you will feel better.
I know how it feels. I'm going through the same thing right now. I have to admit though I still keep it in the back of my head that one day she may contact me again and then I'll just decide what to do then. I did tell her I'm done with her of course, and I explained her why, but that's as far as I'm willing to go for now. At this point things are just not worth it for me, but who knows what happens in the future? Who knows she may change, but honestly, I doubt it. It may go well for a while and then we're back to square one. And that's something I can't go through again. But does that make it my problem? No, I don't think it does. I think I tried long enough, I think I took it long enough. I even think she's caused so many problems between us all of this is actually her fault. But she somehow doesn't seem to understand or she plainly doesn't WANT to understand. But again, is that my problem? No, it's not. It's hers. But still, people can change over time. But frankly I'm not gonna wait on that. I'm just gonna move on and when the day comes she contacts me again I'll see what I do. But maybe that day won't even come. But even if that day comes or not I will still know I did the right thing. It may sound harsh but I don't owe her anything. I tried being her friend through the worst possible stuff and gave it my all, but it just wasn't meant to be. Maybe I didn't understand stuff at times but the same goes for her. But always it seemed like I had to give and she was the one taking.
Not saying this is the same with you, but some things you mention here are kind of similar. So, my advice to you, follow whatever you feel is right. Follow your heart. Put things on ice and let time deal with it. Maybe the day comes you both realize how to make it work. If that day comes that's great, if it doesn't well so be it. It happens to us all. You could tell her why you've decided to do things the way you're planning to, that's up to you. It would be decent to do so, but you have to decide if you want to or not. You would leave the door open for a bit though, but again that's up to you. But whatever you decide, move on and don't look back. Make the decision you feel is right and just see what the future brings.
well she hasn't called so that gives me more time to sort out what i need to say
I agree with you too you did the right thing by ending
that crazy friendship cause i had a friend that i made in
highschool and i even wrote Shelia two letters and she
never wrote me back and that made me angry i don't
like it when people plays tricks on me cause it hurts
my feelings and it makes me angry so i know what
you're going through too i was very nice to Shelia
but she diden't seem to care about me or my feelings
so i ended my friendship with her cause i couldn't
take it anymore cause she was hurting my feelings
cause i sent her a christmas card and she didn't
send me one , that made me angry so i ended
my friendship with that stupid person,